Hacking the Game of Resonance

In the quest to achieve your dreams and aspirations, learning the art of manifestation can do wonders. While learning about how you can most effectively realize your goals and dreams—the help of a handy little thing called resonance can be priceless.

Resonance is a physics-based concept that offers the secret to how you can manifest whatever you desire—far faster than you would be able to if the only Universal Law you knew about was The Law of Attraction.

What Is Resonance

The word “resonance” means “to resound” and “reverberate”—to sound out together with a loud sound. Resonance is what causes many musical instruments to create the music that we can listen to and enjoy. It’s also a phenomenon that applies to human beings. We each “resonate” with our own unique energy field, vibrating with a specific pattern of frequencies.
When we read something that feels “right” to us, we will often say, “that article really resonated with me.” When we meet someone who seems to instantly “get” us, we will say, “there was something about her that resonated with me.” These statements describe the phenomenon of resonance at work. When we encounter someone that our energetic field “jives” with (meaning that our energetic field is similar to the other person’s energetic field), we actually FEEL the sensation of our vibrations matching. It’s a wonderful feeling of attraction, deep connection, and “coming home to yourself.” It feels like the most natural thing in the world. This is reassuring because if resonance is natural, and resonance is the key to manifesting what we desire, this means we’re built to be epic natural manifestors!

In a more technical sense (which will be helpful in our discussion of manifestation), resonance is the name for what occurs when one object, vibrating at the same natural frequency of a second object, forces the second object to start vibrating, seemingly spontaneously. When this happens, a loud sound can be heard where there was none previously.

Getting In Tune With Manifestation

Here’s a quick rundown of an experiment that’s often used in physics classrooms to demonstrate the concept of resonance. Imagine that there are two tuning forks that have the same natural frequency (AKA rate of vibration) mounted onto “sound boxes” located just a few feet away from each other. The first tuning fork is struck, and it starts to vibrate actively, disturbing the air molecules around it and creating sound waves that produce a ringing sound. A moment later, the second tuning fork starts to actively vibrate and begins making the same sound, even though it hasn’t been physically struck. The second tuning fork starts producing sound because its natural frequency matches the natural frequency of the first tuning fork (the one that was struck). It is because their frequencies match that there is the possibility of getting a quantifiable result that can be sensed/perceived. The second tuning fork starts ringing, and what you get is a very loud sound, with the two tuning forks ringing in unison.
It’s like the second tuning fork wakes up and starts vibrating “hello” because it recognizes a family member or friend—someone who shares the same frequency. Suddenly, since the first tuning fork was struck and because the two tuning forks have the same natural frequency, both forks become aware of each other’s presence, even though they weren’t before. The two tuning forks were always there, just a few feet away from each other. They didn’t, however, recognize that the other was there because they weren’t actively vibrating at the same frequency. They weren’t ringing and were, thus, undetectable to each other. But as soon as they both started actively vibrating at the same frequency, it’s like they became “visible” to each other. It is as if they could experience each other in a physical sense. Resonance occurred.

So, what do you and your goals and dreams have to do with a couple of tuning forks in a physics classroom? Well, in a very real way, YOU are a tuning fork. Your body vibrates at a rate specific to the thoughts, sensations, and emotions that you hold at any one time. The things and experiences you desire can also be thought of as tuning forks, with their own unique frequencies–but you and your desired things and experiences are undetectable to each other because you aren’t actively vibrating at the same frequency (making a sound that allows you to “recognize” or “hear” each other, and for resonance to occur).

The Law of Attraction vs. Resonance

Imagine for a moment that you are the first tuning fork, and the thing you desire (let’s say, a vacation to Hawaii) is the second tuning fork. You’re both wearing blindfolds. So, you can’t see each other. You’ve also got earplugs in your ear, the really high-tech kind that literally block out all sound. So, you’re both sitting there in total silence, unaware that the other is there. You can only become detectable to each other if you “strike your own tuning fork,” causing the other “tuning fork” (whatever you’re trying to manifest) to make the same sound you’re making. At that moment, you have officially come into resonance. It’s only once you have come into resonance that you can “detect” each other. The manifestation is complete!

So, how do you strike your own tuning fork, putting out a call to all the things you want to do, be, and have? I’ll get into the specifics of that in a future piece, but for now, let’s take a moment to make sure we understand how working with resonance can free you from the damaging results of incorrect interpretations of The Law of Attraction’s role in the manifestation process.

Not to put The Law of Attraction down, but resonance is the REAL mechanism by which you manifest things. It’s how you can easily match your vibration to the vibration of the things you desire. Thereby causing them to appear in your life, for you to enjoy. If you understand how resonance works in the manifestation process, you understand what you need to do to in order to be a successful manifestor. Hint: it’s not trying to raise your vibration willfully. It goes much deeper than that—although happily, it’s also much more fun!

At the end of the day, while you get to do what you want to do by matching your frequency to the thing you desire, this “matching” can only happen when you’re willing to give up the idea that you need to willfully ATTRACT things into your life or struggle to raise your vibration. Then, you hop on board the resonance train instead. Believing that you must work to attract something into your life is the wrong way to look at it. In fact, looking at it this way is what holds you away from successful manifestations.

Here’s why you can never achieve resonance with your desires if you’re also holding onto the idea that you must “attract” things into your life.
If you think about it, if you’re trying to attract something into your life, it stands to reason that you believe you don’t already have that thing. In other words, the thing or experience that you desire is somewhere external to or separate from you, and you’re attempting to draw it closer to you, into your life, through sheer “magnetic” force.

This is problematic because the way the Universe works is that if you perceive, feel, or believe you don’t have something (because you think of it as being “over there,” and not yet present), and that you must attract it towards you, that “separation” or “lack” is exactly what you’ll get more of. You will literally manifest more of the LACK of whatever you want.

The Universe gives you more of what you perceive, feel, and believe. So, if your belief is “that thing is separate from me—it’s over there, and I don’t have it over here with me yet,” then the Universe will respond with “okay—if you say so!”—and that’s exactly what you’ll get.

The Scientific Explanation

That’s a bit of an esoteric explanation. So, let’s look at this in a more scientific way. As mentioned earlier, the common (yet incorrect) Law Of Attraction-based belief is that in order to attract something into your life, you need to willfully raise your frequency/ vibration in an attempt to match the “elevated” frequency/vibration of the thing or experience you want to “get.” But the truth of the manifestation process is that you can only have or experience something once you perceive, feel, and believe that you already have it. This is where resonance comes in.

Remember the tuning fork analogy from earlier? I described what’s happening between the tuning forks as the tuning forks “recognizing” each other (coming into resonance with each other) only after the first tuning fork was struck. That word—recognize—is key here. In order for two things to start actively vibrating at the same rate (thereby coming into resonance), one must first recognize the other on a vibrational level. This can only happen when the first one is “struck.” Only then, after they have “recognized” each other, will they start actively vibrating at the same rate. When they start actively vibrating at the same rate, they become visible/audible to one another, and can experience being in each other’s presence.

The crucial thing to grasp here is that the two tuning forks were always there, mere feet away from each other, but they didn’t “know” the other was there. This is how it is with life and manifestation! Everything that you desire is already here, in the present moment, exactly where you’re sitting, standing, or lying down. Whatever it is that you want is literally already here. If you are one tuning fork that desires the other tuning fork, the thing you desire was there all along.

I know this can be hard to wrap your head around because we are so trained to rely on our physical senses to determine what is “real” and present. For now, I invite you to simply entertain the idea that maybe, just maybe, everything you desire is already here.

xoxo – Mel



Original article published by Amanda Aitken


Trust the Process


Here’s the thing —–

Do what you do.

Do it with integrity.

Do it with passion.

Do it with heart.

Trust the process.


I never in a million years thought that I’d be traveling to do galleries and readings. In fact, I didn’t ever intended to do any of what I currently do on a public level, much less as my main livelihood.

What I DID DO was focus on what I needed to do to become as clear of a conduit for healing and reading as possible. That meant some REALLY hard choices. It meant taking some major risks and putting myself out there to possibly be judged and ridiculed by friends, family, or community members. It meant drawing personal boundaries. It meant declining clientele that wasn’t a good fit – regardless of their retaliation or angst towards myself and my practice. And I’m ok with that.

It was giving up the expectation in any and all regards as to how success would look and being a willing participant in whatever Universe put in my path – even if I didn’t understand it.

Trust that Higher Power.

You don’t have to know what the entire plan is going to look like. Simply focus INWARD (not on what everyone else is doing) and take the next best step FOR YOU. One. Step. At a time. ❤️

xoxo – Mel


Ownership and Victimhood

Nobody else is responsible for your feelings. This realization can end the blame game once and for all, and leave you standing in your true place of power – the present moment.

The energies alive in your body right now were not ’caused’ by anyone else, and nobody else can take them away.

Yes, others may trigger latent pain and sorrow and disappointment in you, they may contribute to the field in which your old, unresolved pain can resurface, but they cannot make you feel how you feel.

Nobody can make you happy, nobody can make you unhappy. You are only invited, constantly, to meet what remains unmet in yourself, to touch what you never wanted to touch, to explore the field.

Making others responsible for how we feel is the beginning of all violence, both internal and external, all conflict between people, and ultimately all wars between nations.

Let others off the hook. Honour what is alive in you right now. Learn to hold your own feelings like beloved children, however intensely they burn and scream for attention.

Celebrate the aliveness in your hurt, the vibrancy of your disappointment, the electricity of your sadness. Kneel before the power in your anger, honour its burning creativity.

From this place of deep acceptance, you do not become weak and passive. Quite the opposite. You simply enter the world from a place of non-violence, and therefore immense creative power, and you are open to the possibility of deep listening, honest dialogue, and unexpected change.

In suffering you become small. In love, anything is possible.

xoxo – Mel


Vulnerability and Boundaries


“Vulnerability is at the core, the heart, the center, of meaningful human experiences. ” ~ Brene Brown

Opening up can be difficult, especially if you’ve been burnt time and time again. Trust me. I get it. Sexually molested as a child. Growing up with an alcoholic, emotionally unavailable mother. Narcissistic boyfriends over and over.

You get burnt enough times, you want to close off. Become a hermit. Disappear.

I get it. And you’re not alone.

Like Danielle LaPorte has said, “Open, gentle heart. Big f*cking fence.” Don’t close off. Know your boundaries. Know YOURSELF.

When you know yourself, being vulnerable and open isn’t has hard as it looks. Start within.

xoxo ~ Mel