Hacking the Game of Resonance

In the quest to achieve your dreams and aspirations, learning the art of manifestation can do wonders. While learning about how you can most effectively realize your goals and dreams—the help of a handy little thing called resonance can be priceless.

Resonance is a physics-based concept that offers the secret to how you can manifest whatever you desire—far faster than you would be able to if the only Universal Law you knew about was The Law of Attraction.

What Is Resonance

The word “resonance” means “to resound” and “reverberate”—to sound out together with a loud sound. Resonance is what causes many musical instruments to create the music that we can listen to and enjoy. It’s also a phenomenon that applies to human beings. We each “resonate” with our own unique energy field, vibrating with a specific pattern of frequencies.
When we read something that feels “right” to us, we will often say, “that article really resonated with me.” When we meet someone who seems to instantly “get” us, we will say, “there was something about her that resonated with me.” These statements describe the phenomenon of resonance at work. When we encounter someone that our energetic field “jives” with (meaning that our energetic field is similar to the other person’s energetic field), we actually FEEL the sensation of our vibrations matching. It’s a wonderful feeling of attraction, deep connection, and “coming home to yourself.” It feels like the most natural thing in the world. This is reassuring because if resonance is natural, and resonance is the key to manifesting what we desire, this means we’re built to be epic natural manifestors!

In a more technical sense (which will be helpful in our discussion of manifestation), resonance is the name for what occurs when one object, vibrating at the same natural frequency of a second object, forces the second object to start vibrating, seemingly spontaneously. When this happens, a loud sound can be heard where there was none previously.

Getting In Tune With Manifestation

Here’s a quick rundown of an experiment that’s often used in physics classrooms to demonstrate the concept of resonance. Imagine that there are two tuning forks that have the same natural frequency (AKA rate of vibration) mounted onto “sound boxes” located just a few feet away from each other. The first tuning fork is struck, and it starts to vibrate actively, disturbing the air molecules around it and creating sound waves that produce a ringing sound. A moment later, the second tuning fork starts to actively vibrate and begins making the same sound, even though it hasn’t been physically struck. The second tuning fork starts producing sound because its natural frequency matches the natural frequency of the first tuning fork (the one that was struck). It is because their frequencies match that there is the possibility of getting a quantifiable result that can be sensed/perceived. The second tuning fork starts ringing, and what you get is a very loud sound, with the two tuning forks ringing in unison.
It’s like the second tuning fork wakes up and starts vibrating “hello” because it recognizes a family member or friend—someone who shares the same frequency. Suddenly, since the first tuning fork was struck and because the two tuning forks have the same natural frequency, both forks become aware of each other’s presence, even though they weren’t before. The two tuning forks were always there, just a few feet away from each other. They didn’t, however, recognize that the other was there because they weren’t actively vibrating at the same frequency. They weren’t ringing and were, thus, undetectable to each other. But as soon as they both started actively vibrating at the same frequency, it’s like they became “visible” to each other. It is as if they could experience each other in a physical sense. Resonance occurred.

So, what do you and your goals and dreams have to do with a couple of tuning forks in a physics classroom? Well, in a very real way, YOU are a tuning fork. Your body vibrates at a rate specific to the thoughts, sensations, and emotions that you hold at any one time. The things and experiences you desire can also be thought of as tuning forks, with their own unique frequencies–but you and your desired things and experiences are undetectable to each other because you aren’t actively vibrating at the same frequency (making a sound that allows you to “recognize” or “hear” each other, and for resonance to occur).

The Law of Attraction vs. Resonance

Imagine for a moment that you are the first tuning fork, and the thing you desire (let’s say, a vacation to Hawaii) is the second tuning fork. You’re both wearing blindfolds. So, you can’t see each other. You’ve also got earplugs in your ear, the really high-tech kind that literally block out all sound. So, you’re both sitting there in total silence, unaware that the other is there. You can only become detectable to each other if you “strike your own tuning fork,” causing the other “tuning fork” (whatever you’re trying to manifest) to make the same sound you’re making. At that moment, you have officially come into resonance. It’s only once you have come into resonance that you can “detect” each other. The manifestation is complete!

So, how do you strike your own tuning fork, putting out a call to all the things you want to do, be, and have? I’ll get into the specifics of that in a future piece, but for now, let’s take a moment to make sure we understand how working with resonance can free you from the damaging results of incorrect interpretations of The Law of Attraction’s role in the manifestation process.

Not to put The Law of Attraction down, but resonance is the REAL mechanism by which you manifest things. It’s how you can easily match your vibration to the vibration of the things you desire. Thereby causing them to appear in your life, for you to enjoy. If you understand how resonance works in the manifestation process, you understand what you need to do to in order to be a successful manifestor. Hint: it’s not trying to raise your vibration willfully. It goes much deeper than that—although happily, it’s also much more fun!

At the end of the day, while you get to do what you want to do by matching your frequency to the thing you desire, this “matching” can only happen when you’re willing to give up the idea that you need to willfully ATTRACT things into your life or struggle to raise your vibration. Then, you hop on board the resonance train instead. Believing that you must work to attract something into your life is the wrong way to look at it. In fact, looking at it this way is what holds you away from successful manifestations.

Here’s why you can never achieve resonance with your desires if you’re also holding onto the idea that you must “attract” things into your life.
If you think about it, if you’re trying to attract something into your life, it stands to reason that you believe you don’t already have that thing. In other words, the thing or experience that you desire is somewhere external to or separate from you, and you’re attempting to draw it closer to you, into your life, through sheer “magnetic” force.

This is problematic because the way the Universe works is that if you perceive, feel, or believe you don’t have something (because you think of it as being “over there,” and not yet present), and that you must attract it towards you, that “separation” or “lack” is exactly what you’ll get more of. You will literally manifest more of the LACK of whatever you want.

The Universe gives you more of what you perceive, feel, and believe. So, if your belief is “that thing is separate from me—it’s over there, and I don’t have it over here with me yet,” then the Universe will respond with “okay—if you say so!”—and that’s exactly what you’ll get.

The Scientific Explanation

That’s a bit of an esoteric explanation. So, let’s look at this in a more scientific way. As mentioned earlier, the common (yet incorrect) Law Of Attraction-based belief is that in order to attract something into your life, you need to willfully raise your frequency/ vibration in an attempt to match the “elevated” frequency/vibration of the thing or experience you want to “get.” But the truth of the manifestation process is that you can only have or experience something once you perceive, feel, and believe that you already have it. This is where resonance comes in.

Remember the tuning fork analogy from earlier? I described what’s happening between the tuning forks as the tuning forks “recognizing” each other (coming into resonance with each other) only after the first tuning fork was struck. That word—recognize—is key here. In order for two things to start actively vibrating at the same rate (thereby coming into resonance), one must first recognize the other on a vibrational level. This can only happen when the first one is “struck.” Only then, after they have “recognized” each other, will they start actively vibrating at the same rate. When they start actively vibrating at the same rate, they become visible/audible to one another, and can experience being in each other’s presence.

The crucial thing to grasp here is that the two tuning forks were always there, mere feet away from each other, but they didn’t “know” the other was there. This is how it is with life and manifestation! Everything that you desire is already here, in the present moment, exactly where you’re sitting, standing, or lying down. Whatever it is that you want is literally already here. If you are one tuning fork that desires the other tuning fork, the thing you desire was there all along.

I know this can be hard to wrap your head around because we are so trained to rely on our physical senses to determine what is “real” and present. For now, I invite you to simply entertain the idea that maybe, just maybe, everything you desire is already here.

xoxo – Mel



Original article published by Amanda Aitken


Conscious Conversations: The Panel-Mediumship


Join us on Conscious Conversations – The Panel: Mediumship

Thursday, May 12th at 1:00 pm CT.

I have an amazing resource for you that will help you understand your innate mediumship ability.

I was recently invited to take part in a Global event with my friends Angela Blaha and Jess Coleman for Conscious Conversations – The Panel: Mediumship! In our panel conversation we will share the best practices and tips to understanding mediumship and how to access the vibration.

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xoxo – Mel



How to Feel Your Feelings

“You care so much you feel as though you will bleed to death with the pain of it.” ~JK Rowling

Sometimes the last thing we want to do is feel our feelings. Because feeling can hurt.

Feeling can make you cry in the laundromat.

Feeling can make your face unattractively red in the frozen food aisle.

Feeling can make you think this whole being human racket is not the best way to spend your time.

If you’ve been stuffing your feelings back into your rib cage whenever they try to break for the light, this is especially true. I know, because this is exactly what I did with my feelings for twenty-nine long years.

Oh, those crafty feelings would make the occasional jail break, and then I’d vibrate with a nameless rage that ended in cell phone destruction when technology met brick wall. Or I’d start screaming and yanking at my clothes—yes, actual rending of garments—because the rush of pain was too intense to contain within my frame.

My mom is fond of saying that, for the first few years of my life, she thought she was raising a monster. As an empath in a house where emotion was treated like a ticking bomb, I was feeling emotions for the entire family, and all those feelings were processing through my eyeballs and via my vocal chords.

So I learned to stifle my sensitivity and emotion in a well-meaning but mistaken effort to protect those around me. Many of us do.

We learn that emotions aren’t safe.

We learn that crying is not appreciated.

We learn that life runs more smoothly when we pack our emotions into our spleen and forget about them.

It wasn’t until my father landed in the hospital that my personal emotional apocalypse began.

Trapped in a hospital bed, unable to move, all the feeling and empathy my father had successfully stifled for his fifty-three years—with work, beer, and vinyl records—rose up to claim him. He couldn’t bear to be in his body any more, so he stopped eating until he didn’t have to be.

Pressing play on his favorite George Strait track or reading his favorite passages, not sure what he could hear through the morphine haze, the solidity of my emotions began to crack.

As we waited for my father to die, I roamed the hospital halls and spilled coffee on the pristine floors, feeling like I would jump out of my skin. Since writing was the only means I had of processing emotion at the time, I began to record my experiences on a private Facebook group. Never before had I experienced such a rush of love and support.

The cracks began to widen.

After his death, my tenuous yet carefully clutched emotional control completely unraveled.

As I began to lean into the cleansing rush of feeling, rather than running determinedly the opposite direction, life began sending me the experiences I needed to learn how to surf the wave of the emotional onslaught.

I learned how to greet my feelings as friends rather than as a nameless beast out to destroy my life—or at least my morning.

I learned where emotions would hide in my body, lurking between my ribs or huddled in my belly.

I learned how to allow the literal physical feeling of my emotions to burn itself out, by simply feeling the sensation instead of judging it or make it mean something.

I learned how crucial it was to feel my way through my emotions so that I could connect with my inner wisdom.

Devoting myself to processing my feelings, rather than letting them build up until they drained me, began to shift and transform my life.

Depression became a distant memory. I stopped feeling the need to drink, heavily or at all. Quitting caffeine became easy, unless I was in the first throes of grief.

(Any necessary grieving process buys me a few months of caffeine, low energy and crankiness be damned. When I’m grieving, I won’t have energy or optimism anyway, so may as well drink some Starbucks and enjoy it.)

When I try to pin down exactly how I learned to shift and flow with my feelings, rather than strapping them into concrete shoes and tossing them into my stomach, this is what shows up:

Every feeling has a message.

Maybe that message is simply to allow yourself to feel the emotion until it dissipates. Maybe the feeling is guiding you toward some action.

Once, when a boyfriend and I were talking about moving in together, fear and anxiety began flying through my body like cocaine-addled pinballs for no apparent reason. In other words, I started flipping out, which didn’t make any sense, given that this was something I’d been wanting.

When I began to explore the onslaught, I realized that there were deeper issues we needed to delve into before taking that step.

If something persists—anger, fear, anxiety—simply ask it what it wants to tell you. Sit quietly and allow the answer to appear. When you feel peaceful, you have your answer, whether or not you like what that answer says.

Processing your feelings gives you access to your own inner wisdom and innate creativity.

If I sit down to write and nothing comes, I hunt down any feelings that I’ve been avoiding. Sometimes I’ll need to abandon work to roam the Hills and cry. Sometimes I’ll give the feeling five minutes of attention and get back to work.

You already have all the answers you will ever need inside of you—and your emotions are a primary vehicle for those answers. Learning the language of your feelings will give you your own personal Sherpa through life.

All this feeling you’re carrying around may not be yours.

Sensitive, empathic people are the proud recipients of a double whammy. You’re not just carrying around your emotions, you’re also carrying the emotions of people you walked past in the grocery store, the homeless woman you spoke with on the corner two years ago, the friend who vented last week.

Your own emotions may be crowded by the emotions of others that you absorbed unconsciously, sometimes by simply walking past them in the street.

Learn how to clear the emotions of others from your field. One way to do this is to imagine roots extending from your feet into the center of the earth. Send all the emotion and energy that doesn’t belong to you down those roots and into the earth. Feel it draining out of your field and into a place where it can be transformed. Do it daily.

Feeling your emotions brightens your life, both internally and externally.

You already have every answer you will ever need inside of you; you just need to learn how to access that information. Answers about your relationships, your life direction, how to take care of your health, how to move toward what you want. Translating what your feelings are trying to tell you provides a direct conduit to your own higher wisdom.

It may take time and sustained attention to clear out what you were in the habit of stuffing down, but the more you lean into whatever is asking to be seen, the more your life will open and expand.

Brain gremlins won’t have as much sticky emotion to latch onto and they’ll become easier to gently set aside. What once felt heavy and overwhelming will feel light.

And everything will change.

xoxo – Mel



Focused Value

We live in an age of quantity. The media shapes us with the notion that larger, faster, and more are often synonymous with better. We are told that we need to find more time, more possessions, and more love to be truly happy. A smaller quantity of anything that is high in quality will almost always be more satisfying. A single piece of our favorite chocolate or a thin spread of freshly made preserves can satisfy us more than a full bucket of a product that we aren’t very fond of. Similarly, one fulfilling experience can eclipse many empty moments strung together. It is not the quantity of time that matters, but the quality that you experience during each moment. Every minute is an opportunity to love yourself and others, develop confidence and self-respect, and exhibit courage.

Ultimately, quality can make life sweeter. When you focus on quality, all your life experiences can be meaningful. A modest portion of good, healthy food can nourish and satisfy you on multiple levels and, when organically grown, nourish the earth as well. Likewise, a few hours of deep, restful slumber will leave you feeling more refreshed than a night’s worth of frequently interrupted sleep. A few minutes spent with a loved one catching up on the important details about family, work, or community can carry more meaning than two hours spent watching television together.

Often, in the pursuit of quantity we cheat ourselves of quality. Then again, quantity also plays a significant role in our lives. Certain elements, such as hugs, kisses, abundance, and love, are best had in copious amounts that are high in quality. But faced with the choice between a single, heartfelt grin and a lifetime of empty smiles, most would, no doubt, choose the former. Ultimately, it is not how much you live or have or do but what you make of each moment that counts.

xoxo – Mel