Here’s the thing people. Being able to have empathy for someone versus being an empath?
BIG effing difference. Huge. Monumental.
It’s a learning process on how to identify and work with that energy of being a highly sensitive person (or HSP for short) versus actually being clairsentient (literally feeling another’s feelings, thoughts and emotions). They are two different things. Related? Yes. But distinguishably different in how we approach learning about our Selves and the path of self discovery.
I’m so incredibly passionate about this morning simply because of an experience I had the other day.
I was visiting with a friend via texting about some plans that we had for the morning. Nothing major. Just a hike to get out in nature. What I found was that he was feeling the effects of alcohol. He admittedly said he was buzzed. I could tell that he was feeling different than in our past conversations simply by the way he was writing and the words he was using. It didn’t feel good. Not at all. What also came up in conversation was that he was going to have to cancel our hiking plans for a very valid and very good reason, totally and completely understandable.
What I didn’t understand was why I felt so angry. I was more than disappointed. Although I knew logically that it really wasn’t that big of a deal. I was at a point where I was teary-eyed! How silly is that?!?!
In hindsight, what I failed to acknowledge was the fact that he was almost to the point of inebriated. And that even earlier in the conversation before him having to tell me he was canceling our plans, I felt frustration and anger bubbling up within me for no apparent reason. I had had an absolutely stupendous day. I had no reason to be angry or frustrated. Unfortunately, we ended our conversation in a very awkward and strained place last night, which felt horrible.
Fast forward to this morning.
I felt perfectly fine the next morning. No anger. No frustration. I felt energized, clear, and ready to take on some new plans and create some amazing new intentions. I had also planned to use the newly open time slot to work on myself and take a bit of a road trip with my camera, which is something I haven’t done in a long time.
He and I also had a very short conversation as well. And I FELT FINE.
Ding ding ding. Where did that anger and frustration come from that night? You got it. It wasn’t mine to begin with. But yet, I took his stuff, whatever it was that he was dealing with, on as my own and then I felt guilt for being upset and angry because I knew that there was no real reason to feel that way.
This is the difference between feeling empathy for somebody and being empathic. It’s why it is so important to be aware of the distinction and share our stories with one another so that we can learn, grow and expand in our expertise and skill in navigating these waters. This trait of being an empath is not incredibly common, not nearly as common as being an HSP, and it’s also quite a bit left of mainstream emotional understanding. It’s why connecting and learning is absolutely crucial for well-being.
The following article sums it up very well and was my trigger for writing this piece. If you have any inclination that you are an HSP or an empath, you need to read this piece.
Enjoy your day my loves… ❤ ❤ ❤
xoxo ~ Mel